Well the room looks pretty crappy, but versus a dormitory with 8 bunks in a room, this is a Marriot.

No no see the problem is that you have money, and you need to give them that money otherwise they can’t get more money

waiter spits into plate and I thank him

Oh man, OP didn’t spit back. Water gonna get spilled

I loved this movie as a kid, and still love it today

You have no idea. Empathy is seen as a weakness. Especially the more power you have in a career.

Thank you. That means a lot. I guess that’s the part I’m most uncomfortable with - why is expressing emotion seen as vulnerability? It’s one of our most effective methods of communication, particularly of empathy.

That… Actually makes more sense and a thought I was trying to avoid. I know she said a lot of things where she said things to avoid feeling like the bad guy. Unfortunately for her, cheating on your marriage doesn’t have a defense.

Vulnerability is for people you trust.

And this is what needs to change. In order to trust someone, a level of vulnerability is required. We must demand that expression of emotion is not seen as vulnerability, but as a human need.

Feminism is explicitly about the social equality of sexes.

It’s terrible to see. It’s another feature of the patriarchy and toxic masculinity - blaming the victims. It’s why it has been going on for so long.

In a similar vein: Why do women not report rape? This is why. Because even women have been so oppressed by the system that they will even question “if they were asking for it.”

You know, I hadn’t really thought about the benefit that LGBTQ+ acceptance plays in this.

Of everyone who has been so supportive of me, it’s been my queer and non-binary friends.

I am a straight white male with money. While it upsets me to see women saying stuff like this post, I also know that I am not going to blame the women perpetuating the problem, because they themselves are victims of toxic masculinity and established gender norms.

I don’t know if I want to blame the patriarchy or the toxic masculinity that goes with it, but crap. My ex was so not ok when I cried over the discovery of her affair.

She genuinely thought I was trying to manipulate her. I was “too extremely emotional” over it. We were highschool sweethearts, had a kid, and she always talked about how she was disgusted with her own mother for having an affair. Even to the point where she cut off contact with her mother until they ended that relationship.

“No man goes to bed crying because their wife cheated on them or sends nudes to the same guy 4 years later.”

There were red flags earlier than that. “Why are you crying over a movie?” (I always do at emotional bits). “Man up, no one wants to be with someone expresses sadness.”

What’s worse is that it’s pretty much why I don’t bother going out, or have much motivation to get back into the dating game. The patriarchy and toxic masculinity has ruined being human to me. I don’t want to be friends with people who cover up all their emotions. I don’t want to be friends with guys who are clearly over compensating. Then the girls turn around complain about these men being cruel to them, yet state things like this.

Then you have all the men who have this strange belief that they are owed women, and by behaving like that they get the women they are owed. I won’t take part in that. I will not hurt someone else just to satisfy my desires. If that means I don’t date, I’m much more comfortable being a good person and alone.

I also try to bring it up in conversation, and then people turn around and act like my refusal to participate in patriarchal behavior is anti-social. I had one person point out “technically, you aren’t getting any, even though you want it, making you an incel.” I was so shocked. Its not the fault of women I’m not out getting laid. Its men. It’s the patriarchy. It’s this system set up to isolate me because I have an intense emotional awareness.

Fair. The powers that be would stick it to anything but white mass murderers.

I guess I was just disappointed we didn’t have Nosferatu flicking the lights and everyone sighing and responding with laughter: “Nosferatu!”

Duh the actual target was Terrorism.

Since that word had lost all meaning like I said it would once they stuck it to Luigi.

“We stood behind Obama” and repeatedly came up with racist and hateful statements that you and your friends were using long before I was even born.

Oh good. I’m so glad to hear that.

I like to imagine there is a special level of karma or hell for cheaters. When my ex cheated I found out on my birthday. Absolutely devastated me. Moved out for 6 months, came back, tried to work it out for a few years. I got intense therapy, we saw marriage counselor, then I discovered her sexting the dude she cheated on me with (by her own admission of all things).

If we didn’t have a kid together, I’d have left her to fend for herself. I made all the money in the relationship, I’m the one with an education, and the ability to actually work toward anything. Instead i let her have the house, I’ll help her pay for it for a few years so she can have that much time to afford to buy it out.

My son has everything he will ever need covered by me. She can’t do school work, she has no benefits, and makes 1/5th of what I do. In a few years when that payment stops, she owes me a chunk of money on top of making up that pay.

So, in the end, while I end up with PISD, she has to live the next few years stressing over how to pay for living while I continue to live better and better, and provide for my son. I even have a fund started to afford him to go to college without loans.

Plus, if she remarries, she owes me that money immediately, and I stop paying that extra cash. I don’t see that happening as age is catching up with her, fast. Karma, it turns out, is a bitch.

I hope that OPs Mom was able to turn something around and truly make his dad suffer.

I wouldn’t call him desperate, I would call him time constrained with money to enjoy. He probably won’t actually use it for that, he’ll probably dive into his video game addiction more.

Plus, he says that virtual ladies can’t betray him like the dumb fuck of his ex wife that pretty much ruined his self confidence and self esteem to the point where he doesn’t actually think he could experience the required vulnerability in other people ever again, and it’s been 5 years since the first time she cheated on him.

But he really does appreciate the concern.

The guy who is asking has some stuff in that department, he’s more interested in the visuals now