OK but that advice was clearly meant for people like OOP who haven’t been in a relationship as the post implies. If you have been in a relationship and are just in a slump then the shower advice was pretty clearly not meant for you? Not everything is meant for you.
Honestly if the energy your putting out in this comment section is the energy your approaching people with then that might be your problem.
My parents know a lady names Kelly who married a man with the last name Kelley. Kelly Kelley.