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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • Hmm. I work in a high stress field. As in, behavioral modification. I get hit a lot. It does impact me over time. So what I do to manage my emotions is taking the time to take it easy on myself. I make that space. One hour after work every day (not counting the drive) where I am just alone with my thoughts and doomscrolling before I let anyone else place any demands on me (myself included). You sound a little bit like me before I burned out originally a few years ago and put some boundaries in place where self-care is concerned. That one hour did wonders.








  • Situational.

    First, if it’s directed at me, I do not engage. Like, at all. If someone is trying to get my attention with shitty behavior, they’re not getting it. If it’s the guy on my discord meme channel who posts incel memes, I really have do have to remind myself not to engage. That one is harder, because I feel like they’re taking away from the quality of the space, I don’t want them in my orbit AT ALL, but they are part of the greater community, and this channel sort of quarantines their brain vomit. So again, I never engage with them, but I deliberately engage with other posters and community members who are productive and positive. In the short term, it’s not rewarding, but in the long term I do feel much better about myself. And finally, sometimes I really do need to step away–maybe it’s into another game, another community, etc. Sometimes I do need to take a break, seek other forms of entertainment and reinforcement. The main thing is not to continuously expose yourself to things that are aversive to you and just stress and stress. You have to break it somehow.


  • Fun one. I grew up in trailers and we had roaches. Id wake up with them crawling all over. Turn on a light and up the walls they go. Now I’m a behavior therapist and I’d take the person who obviously means me no harm over skittering ass bugs. There’s nothing that says they have to stay either or that they can’t be helped :)