The title pretty much says it all. I’ve always struggled to connect with others, but the farther I find myself outside of societal norms, the harder it gets.
The title pretty much says it all. I’ve always struggled to connect with others, but the farther I find myself outside of societal norms, the harder it gets.
There are some really nice people on FB and Insta. People who never had the time nor reason to realise that they’re being advertised and exploited. People who will never join the Fediverse because they’re happy with what they get from their current social.
If you’re a single person, looking to meet new interesting people, you’ve just shut out 90% of the world.
I don’t necessarily place high value on access to that 90% of the world. It’s online access only. I have plenty of avenues elsewhere online and in real life to find people. And not sure what being single/not single has to do with it. I’m not pan, so it’s far from 90% of the world that I’m attracted to physically let alone emotionally and intellectually. Quality over quantity.
That’s the thing – it’s not online access only. More and more people are finding each other online and forming lasting relationships from it.
I currently live in a country where dating is extremely hard, especially so for the foreigners. Finding my people here just doesn’t happen. Oh sure there are meetup groups, but that’s a handful of people. Using a simple app like FB to find english-speaking people in your area who have a common interest? An extremely useful tool.
That makes sense, FB is still fairly popular with younger people in foreign countries I guess.
In the US, pretty much nobody below 40 is going to be actively socializing on FB.
So your equation for pros/cons of staying on FB versus pros/cons of leaving is different than mine and both of us very likely weigh FB differently than OP would. Great for you if you find value in staying on FB. Understand that not everyone wants to find dates on FB, nor that FB is even an equally good platform for finding dates everywhere in the world.
You don’t need to tell me I’m missing out on potential dates by leaving FB. Just stay there yourself and be happy, my friend.
well that’s the sad thing - I don’t use nor have I really ever. The most social I ever did was 15 years of reddit.
But I watch friends and colleagues, go out on dates with like-minded people, or find great deals on furniture, and I can’t help but think “huh.”
My main point is, it’s a horrible app/platform, but it has incredible utility by way of reach.