• iiVy@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      If you can’t afford to tip, you can’t afford to eat out or order delivery. Just because the tip system is a terrible system doesn’t mean you have an excuse to fuck over the victims of it.

      Until there’s a national strike on tipping that could lead thousands of tip reliant workers to quit (like the writers strike), be a decent person and have some sympathy. Instead of eating out and not tipping, don’t eat out. The restaurant gets the same amount of money whether you tip or not, I guarantee they don’t give a shit.

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        1 year ago

        If you can’t afford to live without tips, don’t volunteer to become a potential victim of a terrible system.

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          If it wasn’t so depressing I might find it funny you think people work in bad environments because they want to.

          Minimum wage is not a livable wage, I shouldn’t have to tell you this. Your arrogance is genuinely disgusting.

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            1 year ago

            And I find the arrogance of telling people if they can’t afford to tip, they shouldn’t eat out disgusting. If they can afford it and are just being cheap, that’s one thing, but you don’t get to act all morally superior while being arrogant the other direction.

            • 𝓢𝓮𝓮𝓙𝓪𝔂𝓔𝓶𝓶@lemmy.procrastinati.org
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              If you can’t afford something you shouldn’t buy it. Just because you don’t agree with the system doesn’t mean you get to ignore it and then justify it by taking a moral high ground.

              You know the servers wages are dependent on tips and you choose not to pay them. THAT is the social contract. Whether you agree with it or not.

              If you cared about changing the system you’d take steps to change it without screwing the workers. You’re just being cheap.

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                I tip. But there’s a difference between “I know the system is terrible, but I rely on tips and would really appreciate it if you’re able” and “Don’t go out if you can’t afford to tip.” The second is arrogant and condescending. Not being an asshole goes both ways.

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        I see what you mean, but I’m not the one fucking over the employees.

        On the short term you are right, but as long as customers keeps tipping, the system works well enough for nothing to change.

        The more people stops tipping, the closer we get to change.

        And I’m sorry that the change will hurt the employees, but it’s not my battle. And tipping does not support the employees battle, just this days income.

        Tell me another way I can support their battle, and I’ll listen.

        (I tip when the employees seems to rely on it, or if I feel extraordinarily well serviced.)

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        I have sympathy for underpaid workers. But I don’t think I’ll change my tipping attitude just because you said such and such. Actually your commands sound a bit condescending.

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          “I have sympathy for underpaid workers.”

          …but they should feed me while I do nothing to help them, instead I’ll be here actively enriching the people exploiting their labor.

          “But I don’t think I’ll change my tipping attitude just because you said such and such.”

          I’m sure that sounded cool in concept, but basically all this says is that you find the idea of changing your mind due to dialog silly. How sad.

          “Actually your commands sound a bit condescending”

          Oh wow, I hope my analysis doesn’t come across like that. You might stop tipping - oh, wait…

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            All good points. But since tipping is supporting this broken system, and not tipping seems to be worse, what do you suggest then?

            I could just not go out, sure. Just stay out of it. If enough people do that, this wil lead to less customers, more employers closing their business, more employers loosing the job they couldn’t afford to quit. I don’t see how that helps either.

            So I’m listening. What do you suggest?