I’m going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that’s part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

  • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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    Serious question: are you autistic? I didn’t know I was at the time but I too went through university without ever making hardly any friends. Those people I did interact with were only out of necessity like for group projects. I haven’t kept in touch with any of them, and I did hardly any extra curriculars during that time. I graduated in 2019. Then in 2022 I found out I might be autistic and ended up getting diagnosed as such.

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      I don’t think so. There might be the possibility but pretty sure, I’m not. I always struggled with being venerable with ppl and making connections with ppl, so I’m not sure if that’s a sign of autism but I kinda feel neurotypical. Might just have a strong case of avoidant personality disorder tho.

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        Yeah it’s a spectrum. I never thought of myself as autistic until I watched a particular YouTube video where a guy describes what autism looked like for him and it was so utterly different from what I understood autism to be. (Link)

        Personally I think of myself being more on the Aspergers end of the spectrum although they don’t diagnose people with that anymore. For me it’s a lot about getting stuck into a routine and not wanting to change the way I do things, combined with some amount of sensory overload that I had never really associated with my own neurodivergence, and a decent amount of missing certain social cues.