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    2 months ago

    sexual desires are being able to be fulfilled illusionary and in a fantasy world.

    Aren’t we pretty much there already? Dating and being together is about so much more than sex, the loneliness epidemic has other causes.

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      1 month ago

      A lot of it has to do with options. Not good or bad, but options.

      You go into a store and want to buy milk, and instead of there being the local milk selections there is now 50,000 different choices. So we always seem to hold out for that more ideal option and never really select one.

      This might be where modern dating is going. Fight Club talked about the single serving friend. Tinder style dating has turned us into single serving partner.

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        1 month ago

        Window shopping on a hookup site is one thing, it seems a bit like some people have just not gotten the memo that that’s not what a long-term relationship looks like. Superficial stuff is nice but I’d rather find someone I really, really like. Can’t really window shop for that though and it might take a long, long time to actually find out if the feelings match reality.

        Apparently a large amount of people are essentially casting someone for the role of partner though. Never really taking down their personality defenses, never just being themselves. Because that’s being vulnerable. 1800s style. I’d rather stay single.